Discipling Mothers So That They Can Properly Disciple Their Children

I have been reading Marilyn Howshall’s testimony and the blog posts by her “disciple”, Barbie Poling at Influential Parenting.

I have been getting so much good information and food for thought from their stories. So much of my parenting has been intuitive and Spirit-led that I haven’t thought much about the process. These ladies have written out the steps to follow.

And I must confess that much of my parenting has not been intentional enough, and there have been times when I have been lazy and have just depended on God’s grace to cover me when I should have taken the time and effort to discuss things with my children and to deal with heart issues. But part of the problem with that has been my not knowing what was the correct way that these issues should be dealt with. That is what Barbie’s blog posts have been helping me with. It’s better late than never, but I wish I had started reading these materials and putting them in practice sooner.

They really get into heart issues in all of our relationships and how we relate to people in our lives. They deal a lot with truth-telling. I see a lot of transparency and honesty being required in this kind of discipleship.

In dealing with our children in this way, it will take lots of time and lots of discussions. I’m going to have to change the way I do lots of things. But this is what I have wanted. I want my children to walk in love and to put others before themselves. I want us to develop godly relationships within the family so that we will be able to relate to people outside of the family in a godly way.

A big key is to stop being self-centered. We have to stop trying to use others to get approval for ourselves. We have to do things just because they bless others. That’s what we moms have to change in ourselves! Then we can train our children to live this way.

I’ve been meditating on this thought from part 8 of Marilyn’s story of the ministry that God has done through her:

Coming to maturity is a process, but Christlike character—where Christ is at the center—is formed in us rather quickly, with the ability to love selflessly, relate correctly, and produce the fruit of Christlike character in our children. The fruit of unity in a marriage, and unity, peace, harmony, and teamwork in a family is also set in place quickly through the power of the Holy Spirit in each family member who is learning and practicing self-control-by-love.

You can read the rest of the post here:
http://influentialparenting.wordpress.com/2009/11/14/part-8-the-hard-small-picture/

I hope you will check out this website and see if the Lord has something to show you that will help you in your relationships and in the discipling of your children.

Decree the Will of God Over Your Life

A Facebook friend, Roslyn Daniel, sent these decrees to the members of a group called Spirit-filled Christians on Fire for God. I think that they are very powerful and important for us to say out loud each day because our spoken words have creative power.

7 Decrees!

I Decree through the Blood of Jesus Christ, by the Word of God, according to and in agreement with the Will of God:

1. I Decree AMAZING TURNS OF EVENTS IN MY LIFE (I WILL WALK IN MIRACLES!)

2. I DECREE A 180 DEGREE TURNAROUND OF ISSUES, BESETTING CHALLENGES, DEMONIC AS WELL AS NATURAL OBSTACLES THAT HAVE GONE BEFORE ME- EVERY HIGH PLACE IS BROUGHT LOW BY THE NAME THAT IS ABOVE EVERY OTHER NAME- THE NAME OF JESUS!

3. I DECREE THAT THE ENEMY WHO HAS PLUNDERED ME SHALL BE UTTERLY PLUNDERED AND SHALL FULLY RECOMPENSE ME SEVEN TIMES FOR ALL WHICH HAS BEEN STOLEN BY ROBBERY, DECEPTION OR OPPRESSION, IN THE NAME OF JESUS!

4. I DECREE THAT THE POWER OF LOSS THAT HAS PLAGUED MY LIFE AND GENERATIONS BEFORE ME IS UTTERLY AND COMPLETELY BROKEN BY THE BLOOD OF JESUS AND THAT I AM EXPERIENCING A REVERSAL OF FORTUNE IN MY LIFE. FOR THE LORD HAS FAVORED MY CAUSE IN JESUS NAME!

5. I DECREE THAT “FAITH DESTROYERS”- LIES FROM SATAN AND HIS MINIONS, ANY HIGH THING THAT EXALTS ITSELF ABOVE THE KNOWLEDGE OF GOD ARE COUNTERACTED BY FAITH IN THE WORD AND THE BLOOD OF THE LAMB AND THAT THEY NO LONGER HOLD OR CAPTIVATE MY MIND IN UNBELIEF.

6. I DECREE THAT THE ENEMY WILL NOT SUCCEED IN ANY ATTEMPT TO MAKE MY FAITH IN THE POWER AND THE BLOOD OF JESUS CHRIST OF NONE EFFECT! THROUGH CHRIST I RUN THROUGH A TROOP AND I UTTERLY DESTROY THE WORKS OF DARKNESS THAT SEEK TO OPPRESS, CONFOUND, CONFUSE, DECEIVE OR BIND ME, IN THE NAME OF JESUS!

7. I DECREE THAT THE STRATEGIES AND WEAPONS THAT CAPTURED ME AND HELD ME IN HARD LABOR ARE BROKEN FOR THE LORD’S YOKE IS EASY AND HIS BURDEN IS LIGHT!

FINALLY I DECREE “LET GOD ARISE” AND OUR ENEMY BE SCATTERED IN JESUS NAME! AMEN!

Powerful Teaching on Faith

I have a guest blogger today! 🙂 Actually, two of them. My friends, Tom and Pat Hall, have followed our journey and stuck by us through thick and thin. They are true friends.

Tom has recently received his Bachelor’s degree in Religion. He taught at the Wednesday night services at their church this past summer.

Pat has been a great encourager during some of our toughest times of living by faith and wondering what in the world was going on.

Tom did a teaching on faith at their church, and Pat emailed me parts of it to cheer me on. Many of the verses he brought out were the ones that helped me make it through the dark days of not knowing what was going to happen, and the seeming victory that satan was winning over us. We made it through the struggles of doubt and discouragement through the encouragement we found in God’s word and through the faithful few who saw that God really did have His hand on us and was directing our steps.

I hope that this teaching will encourage someone today who wonders what God is doing or where He is in the middle of their storm.
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Here is the teaching on faith:

Tom started his study with a quote from George Mueller:

“Faith does not operate in the realm of the possible. There is no glory for God in that which is humanly possible. Faith begins where man’s power ends.”

What an awesome thought, and it’s true!

Tom asked the congregation: If God is so powerful, then why do we even need to have faith?

Then he read some parts of Hebrews 11 to us…

“Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.”

“Through faith we understand that the worlds were framed by the word of God…”

“By faith Abel offered unto God a more excellent sacrifice than Cain…”

“By faith Enoch was translated that he should not see death…”

“But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.”

“By faith Noah, being warned of God of things not seen as yet, moved with fear, prepared an ark…”

“By faith Abraham, when he was called to go out into a place…obeyed…”

“By faith he sojourned in the land of promise…”

“Through faith also Sara herself received strength to conceive…”

“These all died in faith, not having received the promises, but having seen them afar off, and were persuaded of them, and embraced them…”

“By faith Abraham, when he was tried, offered up Isaac…”

“By faith Isaac blessed Jacob and Esau…”

“By faith Jacob, when he was dying, blessed both the sons of Joseph…”

“By faith Joseph, when he died, made mention of the departing of the children of Israel…”

“By faith Moses, when he was born, was hid three months of his parents…”

“By faith Moses, when he was come to years, refused to be called the son of Pharaoh’s daughter”

“By faith he forsook Egypt…”

“Through faith he kept the Passover…”

“By faith they passed through the Red Sea…”

“By faith the walls of Jericho fell down…”

“By faith the harlot Rahab perished not…”

I am just going to go on now and make some statements which were in Tom’s notes…

The believer must live day by day with a constant sense that Jesus is alive—we do not serve a dead God

No other religious leader can compare to Christ—nothing the world can offer can compare to Christ

He is looking after His affairs—and He can be relied upon in any situation

How did Jesus, our model of faith, teach us about faith?

19 of Christ’s miracles give instruction on faith—why would He use so many miracles to instruct on faith?

Faith must grow because weak faith does not please the Lord—remember Hebrews 11:6?

Tom then gave a short illustration on growing faith—he had discussed a story he read about the suspension bridge that spans the Niagara. First, they attached a thin thread to a kite and sent both across to the other side on the wind. Then, by using the thread, a heavier string was attached and pulled across. Then a heavier one and so on until they sent a rope and finally the first cable. Growing faith can be like that, too. Sometimes it happens in steps.

Jesus condemned weak faith in His disciples 3 times—

When he stilled the storm on the Sea of Galilee, when Peter walked on the water, and when the disciples failed to heal the demon possessed boy

And Jesus was grieved when His disciples showed a lack of confidence in Him—but he didn’t simply condemn the weakness in His disciples—He did something about it

He used miracles to build the disciple’s faith—if you have ever had a prayer answered that could be answered by no one but Christ or Christ moving a person to action on your behalf, then you have experienced a miracle—

Jesus performed His first miracle at the wedding feast in Cana where He turned water into wine—the miracle was designed to build the faith of His new disciples…and it did

Faith building continued throughout Jesus’ ministry—just a month before His death, Jesus was still working at building faith

Lazarus had died, and his sisters were full of sorrow. They asked for Jesus to come. He could have come sooner, but he didn’t. He didn’t come before Lazarus died. But, He did come and not just to console them in their sorrow. What did Jesus do? Was it the 9th inning or was it after the game looked like it was over? Jesus performed a miracle that would strengthen their faith in Him. He raised Lazarus from the dead.

The Gospels record 3 times where Jesus’ miracles resulted in saving faith—

A man born blind received both physical and spiritual sight. The Gadaran man delivered from the demon went out preaching about Jesus after he was freed and saved. One out of ten lepers came back to thank Christ, and Jesus told him to go on his way because his faith had made him whole.

Read Ephesians 6:16, and take the shield of faith to quench the fiery darts of the wicked!

The Greek word for faith in verse 16 is “pistis”—it is the foundational faith in a God Who will protect!

The God of creation is still at work in the individual lives of His children!

Christ appeared to His disciples several times after His resurrection—

Once he appeared just to speak with Thomas who had said that he would not believe until he could put a finger into Christ’s wounds. He performed a miracle to build that one man’s faith which would serve to build the faith of generations to come.

Faith is believing without seeing!

Read Matthew 8: 5 – 13.

The servant of the centurion was being tortured by an extremely painful paralysis—he was nearing death. Christ offered to come and heal the man. What was the centurion’s response? He believed in the power of the spoken word of Christ because he knew Jesus had the authority to back up His words. He understood that Jesus’ authority transcends time, space, illness, flesh, life, and death. He expressed belief without seeing. Think about the fact that this man’s faith is recorded in the Bible for all generations to read about!

Persevering faith looks past obstacles and continues to ask until the Lord responds—

Think about the woman with the issue of blood. She had suffered from her disease for 12 long years. She was considered unclean and could not participate in religious rituals—imagine not being welcomed at church because of a disease. She fought through the crowd just to touch the hem of Jesus’ garment…just the hem…believing she would be healed. Notice how Jesus addresses her…”Daughter”—sweet and loving words to a woman who had been cast aside by society. He showed she was a person with dignity…with great value.

Jesus revealed that He is more than just a miracle worker. After all, do you want someone to love you just because of what you can do for them or because of who you are to them? God has a heart, too! He is the Lord of Creation, the Great Healer, the Savior of Humanity…and He proved it by taking time out to claim this woman as His own. He is the Lover of our soul.

Another example of persevering faith can be found in Matthew 15: 21 – 28.

This mother of a non-Jewish girl came to get help for her demon-possessed daughter. The disciples did not want to help her because she was not Jewish. Jesus agreed—He came to the Jews first and to the Gentiles second…Peter was apostle to the Jews…Paul was apostle to the Gentiles. Some ministries have to take priority at certain times. But she pursued Christ in faith, and God honors persevering faith—Jesus responded to her.

Each time Tom teaches on Wednesday night, he offers a profile of someone who exhibits the particular character trait he is talking about—people aren’t perfect, but Christians are supposed to shine for Christ—

So that week, Tom profiled Darlene Deibler Rose—and I’d like to tell you a little about that—and it really is just a tidbit—her life was so full

Her autobiography is titled “Evidence not Seen”—a difficult read because of her experiences, but worth every single word.

Darlene married a man by the name of Russell Deibler and became a missionary to Papua New Guinea just before the outbreak of WWII. When the Japanese came in and conquered the area, they were extremely cruel to the missionaries that were there. they separated the men from the women and put them all to work. They lived in true concentration camps. They were beaten and starved and fed horrible things. Darlene’s husband would perish in a short amount of time. When she finally found out, the camp commander or commandant told her about it, and she could have been bitter and angry, but instead she gave her testimony to him.

Darlene lived through horrible things—too many to relate here. Suffice it to say, she offered up many prayers and many prayers were answered. I’m certain Darlene prayed to walk out of that camp, but God doesn’t always remove us from the horrid circumstances—He will, however, walk through them with us.

Finally Darlene was accused of being a spy. There was no evidence of such a thing—poor Darlene didn’t even know what was going on in the outside world. She was removed from the concentration camp and put into a cellblock where the occupants were condemned to die. There she was regularly tortured and beaten. But, Darlene still had faith.

She recited poems and sang songs to herself—(Penney, this is why your Bible work with your children is so critical—my praises to you—we have to hide His words in our hearts!)

Darlene never had enough to eat—if she had anything at all, it was spoiled or contaminated with maggots, etc. One day, she was peeking out into a courtyard from her cell and was watching the native female prisoners walking around. She noticed that one of them walked over to a hedge when the guard was not looking, and someone slipped her a bunch of bananas which the prisoner hid in her dress. Darlene began to crave them, to see them in her mind, and to smell them.

She dropped to the floor and told the Lord that she didn’t want a whole bunch of bananas like that woman had—she prayed for just a single banana. Then she did what we all sometimes do. She began to rationalize how God could get a banana into that cell. The guard wouldn’t help, she thought. The interrogators wouldn’t help. There was an old night watchman that might help, but she didn’t want him to even think about it because she knew he’d be shot if he were caught. She’d run out of possibilities, but she prayed. She told the Lord there was no one there who could get a banana to her—so there was no way that He could get a banana to her. She then went on to say that she was truly grateful for the rice porridge. (By the way, the porridge was covered in flies and maggots, and yet she was truly grateful for it.) She explained to God that the bananas just looked so delicious.

Even though Darlene had experienced her own miracles, she had trouble seeing how God could get a banana through those prison walls. (Aren’t we like that sometimes, too?)

Well, officers would come by the cells periodically, and the prisoners would have to get up and execute a proper bow—at a 90 degree angle—exactly—or they would be beaten with a cane. The next day, Darlene heard officers coming, and she prayed for strength to give a proper bow.

When the door finally opened, it was her old camp commander. She’d undergone much cruelty in his camp, as did others. But he was smiling at her, and she’d not seen someone smile in such a long time that she told him that seeing him was just like seeing an old friend. He observed that she was very ill and asked her what word she had for the women back at the camp. She said to tell them she was all right and was trusting in the Lord. She said they would understand and that she believed he understood, too.

When he and the other officers left, Darlene panicked. She’d forgotten to bow. When she heard the guard coming back, she knew it was for her. He opened the door and laid 92 bananas at her feet! She immediately apologized to God for her lack of trust.

(Then Tom read an excerpt from her book—“In the quiet of the shadowed cell, He answered back within my heart: ‘That’s what I delight to do, the exceeding abundant above anything you ask or think.’ I knew in those moments that nothing is impossible to my God.”

Even those who have experienced miracles designed to strengthen their faith have sometimes struggled. Hang on! Christ lives yet! Nothing is impossible to Him!

Tom’s final words for this study: “When my wife and I are experiencing a particularly difficult time and we don’t know how the outcome can possibly be good, we often think of Darlene Rose and we pray. For us, her story seems to put everything into perspective. We know that even when we cannot see how He can do it, Christ has always come through for us—always! And then we look at one another, and we just say ’92 bananas’”.

Penney, I know you and Gary have had “92 bananas” moments before…and I know you’ll have them again…so I am praying for you and cheering you on!

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I’ve left most of Pat’s personal comments in so that you could see what an encouraging friend she is. She is a wonderful writer, and I hope that some day she will have her own blog so that she can share all of her wonderful words of encouragement, wisdom and inspiration with many others.

I found a website for Darlene Deibler Rose’s ministry which she asked friends to continue for her. It is here at http://darlenerose.org/
There are testimonies and updates about a documentary that is being made based on her story. There’s a video of her actual speaking at the website. If you would like to read her book, there is ordering information there.

An Excellent Tip – Get Your Children to Do Chores!

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I remember when I used to think that I had to do everything myself to prove that I was worthy. I never asked anybody for help. I was insulted if somebody offered to help, because I thought they were insinuating that I wasn’t doing a good enough job. I had a lot on my plate, but I felt like I needed to do it all. I had a hard time saying no when somebody asked me to do something. I tutored, I homeschooled other people’s kids, I babysat, I did homeschool assessments, I homeschooled my own children, and I volunteered for lots of things at church. And I had 6 children 10 and under.

Then one day, a lovely homeschool friend of mine opened my eyes to a brand new truth. My kids could do chores and help me with the housework! I couldn’t believe she was suggesting such a thing. I thought it would be cruel to ask something like that of my children. I didn’t even know where to start. What were they really able to do at such young ages? I didn’t know if they could do dishes, vacuuming, sweeping, cooking, laundry, or what. I started pondering this new, enticing idea. Maybe my oldest could unload the dishwasher. He could reach most of the cabinets. Maybe my daughter could help me with folding clothes. After a while, I made a list of things that I thought the older children could do, and I started teaching them how to do these chores.

We slowly started integrating them into the daily household chores. I had a hard time staying on them to make sure they did them because I was almost always busy with tutoring or talking on the phone or nursing a baby or just doing the housework myself. When Gary lost his job, he was home every day and saw what was happening. He started cracking the whip. He made sure they stayed on task and finished the chores they were supposed to do. He helped me figure out what each one was capable of. His help and presence made such a difference. He really helped me get a handle on making the children help with the chores, which in turn gave each of them a sense of purpose and made them feel that they had an important role to fulfill in the family.

As our oldest got older he took on the role of supervisor making sure the younger ones did their chores, which he still does today. I’m still busy with babies, so it’s such a relief to have someone to make sure that the chores are getting done and the house is getting cleaned while I do my fair share instead of wearing myself out trying to do everything. It has made such a difference in my life. I’m a much happier mama now. My house looks a lot better, too – far from perfect, but better than it used to be.

My kids are learning what it takes to run a household, and they’re learning basic life skills. And they are learning to do their work without complaining. We pay them for their work sometimes, but we can go long periods of time without allowance because I have a hard time getting to the bank. They don’t complain. They’re grateful when they do get some money. They save up their money and buy the things they really want. I’m thankful that God sent Sheila to share this tip with me those many years ago. It has saved my sanity! And it has produced good character in my children. If you haven’t already started, you really ought to try it, too. You will be surprised at the fruit it produces in the lives of your children and the peace it produces in your home.