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Catching Up!

I’ve got some ‘splainin’ to do….

If you come to my blog and are caught by surprise by so many newsletters from the past 4 months, there’s an explanation for that.

I forgot to post my newsletters since January here on my blog! I don’t know why I wasn’t thinking of adding them here. I think I got side-tracked by writing the 2023 Year in Review.

But I covered some important topics in these past few newsletters, so I didn’t want you to miss them.
So here they are, months later. Better late than never, right?
They’re still relevant. Some things, like the Eclipse, are over, but I also wrote about Prodigals returning, our testimony of how God took care of us after we lost our house, how to increase your faith and prayer power, and many other important topics.

I hope you enjoy these new posts.

Please let me know what you think.

Leave a comment with questions or prayer requests.

 

Penney Douglas, B.S. in Elem. Ed.
Safe Haven Homeschooling

 

 

 

Safe Haven News January 2024

 

Warm January Greetings Safe Haven Family!

I hope this newsletter finds you well. I hope it warms your heart to know that Someone is thinking of you. You are always on His mind. Never forget that.

If you are struggling this winter season, think about the verses in the Bible that talk about how He takes care of the sparrow and the lilies of the field. He will meet your every need. You are important to Him. Read Luke 12:22-34 to build your faith.

Back in 2005 our family experienced God’s miraculous provision over and over again.

I wrote about the first part in this blog post.

The day came when we knew that the bank had us in foreclosure. We prayed that God would keep us in our house. We had marched around our property praying and giving it to God. We tried to sell the house since we couldn’t keep up mortgage payments, but it wouldn’t sell. We didn’t know what God was doing! We didn’t try to make plans for a place to go because we thought that would show a lack of faith.

We just prayed that God would do something miraculous when they came to make us leave our house. Well, He did, but it wasn’t what we were expecting – at all.

On Feb. 22, 2005 we all gathered in the living room to pray. The little ones were still in bed asleep. The twins were only 1 year old. Morgan was 4. The knock came at the door. Gary answered the door and let the sheriff in. Two other men followed him in. They looked around the room in amazement at all of us calmly sitting in the living room – Shawn, Katie, Patrick, Anna and Kelsey and me. They asked what we were doing, and Gary told them we were praying. They kind of looked at each other and shook their heads. Gary said he would go wake the other children. One of the men followed him to the kids’ bedroom. The sheriff asked me if we had somewhere to go and I told him no. He asked if we had family in the area, and I said we did, but we couldn’t go to live with them. He seemed perplexed. So was I. Where was God? Where was that miracle we were looking for?

The guy who followed Gary into the bedroom came out and conversed with the sheriff. They went outside to talk. Then they came back in and called me and Gary to talk with them privately in our bedroom. The guy’s name was Tony. He was from MERS. They were the mortgage people. He told us that he had made some phone calls and told them what he found. They agreed to let us stay in the house one more week if we promised to pack up and be ready to leave the house in that time. We agreed. Then he asked the sheriff to leave so he could speak to us privately. He asked us if we had any food. We had just run out of food that morning. For the first time during the whole 4 years, we didn’t have cereal or milk or the makings for a meal. I told him that. 

He nodded and said, “I thought so.” He and the other guy (who we found out was a realtor that was going to handle selling the house for the mortgage company) put money together and gave us $500! And then Tony told us to give him a grocery list and he would go buy us groceries. And then he took an order from us and went to McDonald’s and doubled everything we ordered and brought it to us. He went to the grocery store and got us twice the stuff we had put on the grocery list, too. He said that in the future it could be him in this situation and he was showing mercy in hopes that he would be shown mercy if it ever happened to him. We were so grateful and shocked at everything he was doing. We sang some songs for him. He couldn’t believe us. He took Gary aside and remarked about how calm we all were and how well-mannered all of the children were. He asked how we did it. Gary told him we were just believing God to take care of us, and we prayed all the time, and we were trying to obey Him. Tony was blown away by the whole thing.

We spent that week packing halfheartedly. I still didn’t believe that God would let us lose our house. I thought He was going to rush in with some kind of miracle that would let us keep our house. I took some special things that I didn’t want to lose over to Mom’s house, but I didn’t tell her why. I didn’t want to upset her, and I didn’t want anybody to hurt my faith.

 

The next Saturday was Mar. 1, 2005. They came with movers and moving trucks and started loading up our stuff. There was still a lot to pack, so they had to do it for us. Tony told me I had to leave and take the kids, but Gary could stay and help pack. I got the kids loaded in the van, then sat there. I had no place to go. That’s when it hit me that we were really going to have to find somewhere else to live and that our house was no longer ours. But I still didn’t know where to go, so I just sat there. Finally, my friend Gina who had been helping me pack told me to come to her house. I followed her then went into her tiny house and sat, not knowing what to do. She called a few friends and asked if they knew of any place for rent, but nobody did. She made a decision and told me that we could stay at her house. I couldn’t believe it or see that it was possible. She said that she would pay for a hotel for us for 2 nights and she and her daughter would clear out 2 bedrooms for us and we could just stay there until we found something else.

Meanwhile, back at the house that was no longer ours, Tony was doing some more amazing things to help us. He told Gary to find a local storage facility to take our stuff to so that we could actually get to it instead of the movers taking it to some warehouse where we could never get to it and would never see it again. Gary found out where a storage place was, and Tony had the movers put our stuff in two storage units there. Then Tony paid the first month’s storage!

He talked to Gary about programs that would help us find a place to live and help him find a job, but we didn’t feel that we were supposed to go that route, so we politely turned down any of those offers.

I know now that I should have been standing on the Word and saying it and believing it instead of just hoping that it was true, but really doubting in my heart. I should have saturated myself in faith teaching and saying the Word over and over again, but I wasn’t convinced in my heart.

God had to take us through a lot to build true faith in my heart. In the process, He built up my kids’ faith so that they trust God for everything. My prayers for my children that they would believe in Him, know Him and love Him with all their hearts have been answered. It was a difficult journey, but the results have been very good.

Gary and I are still recovering from the shock. But there’s no denying that God took good care of us through the whole ordeal. We never went hungry, and we always had a roof over our heads. Even in Arizona, Colorado and Missouri, where we didn’t know a soul and we didn’t have any money.

I tell this story in the hopes that someone who is facing foreclosure or something similar will be encouraged to trust God and know that no matter what happens, God will take care of you. He takes us where we are and makes all things work together for our good even if we’re not to the point where we can use our faith like some people do.

 

Our story isn’t over. I believe with all of my heart that God has great things in store for us. I believe He will give us a house and land debt-free. I’m saying these things out loud now. I really believe them now.

I hope this story encourages you. You can trust God in any situation. He will take care of you. He took care of us along with our 8 young children.

If you want to read more about the many miracles God did for us after we left our house, you can find the rest of that story in my book Refined By Fire on Amazon.

Read to the end of the book and see how God surprised us with a large sum of money after a long time of financial struggle and hardship. We had been expecting God to do something big for us, and when He did, it shocked me!

The way that things are changing in the economy and the exposure that is happening, I believe that great things are on the way. The old is passing away, the new is coming. Be ready for some good changes to happen. And get ready to learn the truth about things that have been hidden from us for decades. We have been lied to, but the truth is coming out!

If you know someone who is struggling with thoughts of suicide make sure you tell them about this site that is set up to bring them healing in their minds and souls. CallUs4Help.Live has videos and audios and instructions for how to stop a panic attack, along with encouraging words by Theresa Griffith about how God sees you.
There is also a list of crisis hotlines they can call.

Here’s a good way to start the new year: The 31-Day Wisdom Challenge with Pedro Adao and amazing speakers every day in January. It’s free! I’ve participated in it every year and it really gets me into the Word, especially the book of Proverbs. I think it’s the best way to start a new year getting a big dose of wisdom from the book of Proverbs!

~~~~~Family Corner~~~~~

Our family is entering Birthday Season. My son Morgan’s birthday is today, Dec. 31st. Then my oldest son, Shawn, will have a birthday on Jan. 5. Then Emma’s birthday is Jan. 8th. Then the twins, Garrett and Fiona, have their birthday on Jan. 10th. We just leave the tree up until the middle of January so we can put their birthday presents under it.

Even though we are in a less-than-ideal situation having to live with family and the “kids” having to live in a basement, we are making the best of it. We got a teeny tiny Christmas tree and Morgan and Garrett got gifts for everyone since they have jobs and money. Gary got a job that will start in the middle of January. That will help. But we’re believing for something far greater in the near future – for all of us!

~~~~~~Homeschool Corner~~~~~

How to Get Your Kids to Do Their Work Without a Fight
It starts with relationship. We need to build relationship with each of our children. We need to spend time with each one getting to know them. We need to win their hearts, tie heartstrings, through the way we treat them, the things we do for them, the things we do with them, etc. We need to make sure they know how much we love them.

Then from there, we can lead them to the Lord. If they see us as kind, loving parents, they will be more likely to see God that way. As they grow in maturity and in their personal relationship with God, they will desire to please Him, and that will transfer over to pleasing their parents. We teach them what the Bible says about how children can please God. Children, obey your parents. Honor your father and mother. We teach them the commandments, and their behavior and attitudes start to line up with the Word of God.

This leads to our children wanting to obey, for this is right. So when we ask them to do their schoolwork, they are more willing to do it, out of obedience.

Now, we need to do our best to make the work as pleasant as possible and make sure that what we’re requiring of them is truly beneficial to them. We should not give them busywork. We should not load them down with more work than they are really capable of doing. We should think about how we would feel if we had the assignment that we are giving to our child. We should focus on real-life learning.

We should make sure the skills are taught when they are ready to learn them. We should make learning a lifestyle so that it is natural and not forced.

Homeschooling shouldn’t be difficult or tedious. Make learning an adventure. Get excited about the topics that your children are exploring. Find out what they’re interested in and provide materials and resources for them to go deep into the topic.

If they are studying and reporting on a topic that really interests and excites them, they are not going to fight you about doing it.
So build a strong relationship with your kids and make learning an adventure, and you will not have to fight your kids to get them to do their schoolwork.

This is from a blog post  and also posted here on Facebook.

For more content like this join my Facebook Challenge group called Homeschooling Can Be Fun Challenge.

And for a Facebook group that helps you make your homeschool more fun, join us here.

For a conference that was chockfull of great speakers about homeschooling high school, check out the Intentional Homeschool Planning Conference 2023.
It was an amazing conference with topics like choosing curriculum, preparing for college, time management for teens, building relationships with your teens, mental health, scheduling, entrepreneurship, and so much more.

And if you would like to fellowship with like-minded women who love to read and are seeking to be the best we can be, join us in the Christian Moms Book Club.

I pray that you have a Blessed New Year that is the Best Year of your life.

Penney Douglas, B. S. in Elem. Ed.
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Safe Haven News March

Hello Dear Safe Haven Family,

My love language is not really getting gifts, but I love to give gifts!

UPDATE: This book is no longer free, but it’s still available on Amazon for 3.99. You can get it HERE!

So I have another gift to give you this month. My book called Short, Powerful Prayers for Busy Homeschool Moms will be available FREE in the e-book form from MARCH 4-8!!!

Homeschool Moms are some of the busiest people on the planet. They are also the most powerful prayer warriors on the planet. But Moms, how can you pray enough to cover all of your concerns when you’re so busy? I’ve got the answer for you in this book called, “Short, Powerful Prayers for Busy Homeschool Moms”. These prayers are based on scripture and go to the heart of the matter. They lead you straight to the throne of God and give you tools to do the spiritual warfare needed against the enemy.
If you feel like you’re too busy to pray, but you really want to cover your family and your homeschool concerns, these prayers will help you fill that need. The subtitle is “Be the Gatekeeper for Your Family”. This is what we do as moms, so get this book to help you do it no matter what is going on around you.

My friend, Jessica Anderson interviewed me about the book, so watch this video to find out why I wrote this book and different ways that you can use it.

https://www.facebook.com/1349354099/videos/1156486405332309/

This book would be good for any mom, not just homeschool moms, but there are some chapters that specifically address homeschooling.

If you know a homeschool mom or any mom that would benefit from this book, please share this link starting March 4.

~~~~~~~Homeschool Corner~~~~~~~

Do you know what living books are?
Charlotte Mason gave us some clues about how to identify Living Books. If you want to ascertain if a book is a Living Book or not, ask these questions about it.

    1. Is the writing of excellent quality?
    2. Does it contain living ideas and knowledge suitable for the child?
    3. Does the child react with delight caused by the spark of ideas?
    4. Does it make an impact on the reader’s mind (shown by his narrations)?

I have read so many books that I feel meet these requirements.

Below is a list that I put together of some of my favorites, along with authors that have written excellent stories that have stood the test of time. I consider most of the books they have written Living Books. I suppose you could call them Living Authors!

Get a free list of my favorite Living Books here!

~~~~~~~Faith Corner~~~~~~~

We are living in tempestuous times, aren’t we?

I pray that you and your family are pressing into the Father to get your needs met. He is faithful. He will never leave us or forsake us. These troublesome times have a purpose. They push us to think about what really matters and remind us of the only One who can deliver us and sustain us.

“During this period the Lord has allowed us to be tested beyond our strength; often ‘pressed out of measure, above strength…that we should not trust in ourselves.’ Our faith has grown with the work, and we have proved over and over again that all the testings have been for the purpose of strengthening it.”
— Rees Howells

For the last few weeks, I’ve been babysitting my great nephew. His mommy, my niece, had to go back to work a week after his birth. She is struggling to make ends meet. I’m happily watching her baby while she is doing the best she can to support him and herself.

There are things we can do to help each other. Let’s be generous with each other. Let’s live like the early church. They had all things in common.

This is how Rees Howells lived:
“When a need was revealed to Mr. Howells, he would always bless others. He knew that everything he had belonged to God and always had full assurance that God would replenish what he lacked in the nick of time.”
Read the article here.

Rees Howells set a great example of faith for us. His faith was amazing. He trusted God for everything. And when God asked something big of him that he didn’t have the money for at the time, he moved on it as if he did have the money. And God always provided at the last moment.

He learned about intercession and lived it. His prayers became so powerful that they affected the course of World War 2!

And here’s a wonderful miracle that happened through him:

“His Uncle Dick had not been able to walk for 30 years and the Lord told Howells that his uncle would be healed. On being told, Uncle Dick went out to pray and came back saying that he would be healed in four and a half months. They were both told not to pray as that would show lack of faith of what was a done deal. The word went out and some people questioned the situation. Uncle Dick took a turn for the worse and was confined to bed; confirming the doubters’ views. Howells was instructed to go away so that he would not be around when the healing came, so that only God would receive the praise. The Lord told Uncle Dick that he would be healed at 5.00am on May 15th. He was still bedridden and on the night of the 14th had a peaceful sleep, woke up to the clock striking 5.00am and he was healed. He walked the three miles to church later that day.”
This article is a great summary of the book Rees Howells: Intercessor.

If you would like to have your faith challenged and become more bold in faith, I recommend that you read this book called Rees Howells: Intercessor by Norman Grubb.

If you want to read something shorter but very informative, you can read the article mentioned above. It really is a good summary of the book.

If you’d rather watch a video about Rees Howells you can watch one here.

So we have talked about Living Books and Living by Faith in this newsletter.

I guess the point is: let’s keep living these lives the Lord has given us as the gift that they are. Let’s ask Him to help us fulfill His purpose and plan for our lives. We’re all here for a reason. And we feel so much happier and fulfilled when we know what we’re here to do – and we’re doing it.

Ask God each day, “What is my assignment for today?” or “Father, what’s on Your heart today?” Then listen for His answer.

For some of us it’s taking care of and loving our children. For others, it may be a job or ministry that is helping society or serving others in some way. We are salt and light wherever we go. We take Jesus with us, and He is always looking for ways to serve others.

And God may tell you something unexpected. He may send you on an adventure. Be open to do whatever He tells you to do. There are blessings on the other side of obedience.

Be Blessed Beyond Belief!

Penney Douglas, B. S. in Elem. Ed.
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Safe Haven News April 2024

 

Hello Safe Haven Family!
I hope things are going well for all of you. I’m having fun taking care of my niece’s 3 month old baby. I’ve been babysitting about 5 days a week for the last month.
I haven’t been able to see my grandson in Texas yet. He’s 4 months old. But I’m getting to practice my grandmothering skills on baby Cyrus. I will be able to meet my grandson, Alessio, some time in May. I can’t wait!
Well, I’m sure you’ve all heard about the Great American Eclipse. What is up with that?!!! Have you ever seen such a furor over an eclipse? I haven’t.
I’ve heard the warnings about making sure you have gas in your car, cash on hand, groceries, and alternative communication other than cell phones. And why is the National Guard going to be there? And schools are cancelling classes that day?
All of that sounds pretty scary. It could just be a matter of infrastructure because of the amount of people that will be coming to the path of totality.
We happen to live in the path. We are near Dayton, Ohio, which is in the path of totality. I just ordered my Eclipse glasses! The little town where my son, Morgan, works is planning a big extravaganza for it. He works at the Brick Rhod Antique and Bistro, and they are changing their hours because of it. They will be open on Sunday, which is a day they’re usually closed.
So we have been hearing about it for a while as the little town of Lewisburg has been making their plans for the big event. I wondered why it was such a big deal, so I started researching it.
I found out that the other Great American Eclipse that happened 7 years ago only went across the United States, and when you put the path it took from north to south on the map and then put the path of the one that’s coming in April on the map, too, they make an X. That has caused a lot of speculation about what it could mean.
The Bible says in Gen. 1:14 “Then God said, “Let there be lights in the firmament of the heavens to divide the day from the night; and let them be for signs and seasons, and for days and years.” So God does use the sun, moon, and stars as signs to us. He gives us messages through them.
From the many sources I’ve read and listened to, I believe that God is giving us a message of hope through this eclipse.
First, here’s a poetic thought: Solar eclipses are alignments of the sun, the moon, and you. A total eclipse is a dance with three partners: the sun, the moon, and the Earth.
Prophetically, the sun (light) represents God, the moon (reflected light) represents the Church, and the Earth (object of the light) represents the world.
You may have heard about the 7 Ninevehs in the path of the upcoming eclipse. In reality, only 2 of them are in the path of totality. But only 7 states in the US have towns named Nineveh, and those states all have the eclipse going through them. The eclipse from 7 years ago went through 7 cities named Salem, which means peace. Now this one is marked by towns named Nineveh.
There’s even a town called Jonah in the path of totality. Did you know that on the day Jonah walked into Nineveh there was a solar eclipse? This probably lent credence to the message Jonah was proclaiming. And what was that message? Repentance. The funny thing is, Jonah didn’t want them to repent. Not at all. He wanted them to burn. They had done terrible things to his people – unspeakably evil things. So he wanted his prophecy of “Yet forty days and Nineveh shall be overthrown” to come to pass. But he had a feeling God was going to change His mind and not destroy them. It seems he had prophesied that kind of message before and God had left him high and dry. No destruction, but mercy. So he didn’t want to go through that again. He knew that God was a merciful God. In fact he said,
“Therefore I fled previously to Tarshish; for I know that You are a gracious and merciful God, slow to anger and abundant in lovingkindness, One who relents from doing harm. 3 Therefore now, O Lord, please take my life from me, for it is better for me to die than to live!”  Jonah 4:2,3
See, he was very upset that God didn’t destroy Nineveh.
He wanted them to die! But God was pleased with their repentance. He said, “should I not pity Nineveh, that great city, in which are more than one hundred and twenty thousand persons who cannot discern between their right hand and their left—and much livestock?”
Jonah had an anointing of repentance. That is what he should be known for instead of judgment.
We see evil around us, and we are ready for it to be exposed and dealt with. Since the Great American Eclipse 7 years ago, we have seen a lot of evil exposed. We’re not even sure who to trust anymore. But God might be giving those who aligned themselves with evil a chance to repent now before He metes out justice and judgment. Are we going to react the way Jonah did toward people who repent and change their ways? Toward people who called us names because we questioned the narrative?
(Map from nationaleclipse.com)
The fact that the paths of these two eclipses makes an X right across America seems to signify that God is sending a message to our nation. The area that marks the intersection of the two eclipses is known as “Little Egypt”. The Lord is telling us that He is taking us out of Egypt.
Bad things will come upon the enemies of God if they don’t repent, but God’s people are entering into the best times ever according to the scriptures in the minor prophets and lots of other scriptures like Psalm 37. The time is now for good things to come for God’s people.
The sky is not falling, the Kingdom is coming!
What the eclipse is proclaiming is that “He is ruling the nations. He’s coming with mercy. He’s coming with justice as well. The heavens are declaring the glory of what God is about to do on planet Earth on behalf of the nations. The United States is central in all of this.” This is according to Johnny Enlow.
“We’re not going into bondage to the Antichrist, the Beast, the False Prophet. We’re going into freedom. And this is the message the heavens are shouting.”
Johnny Enlow combined the message from the eclipse of 2017 and the message from the upcoming eclipse in this video. He talks about so many prophetic messages and convergences, you’ll be amazed!
Johnny Enlow Unfiltered – What Message is Heaven Shouting?
Melissa RedPill has written a book that explains that the minor prophets were talking about the time we’re living in in her book called “End Times Major Clues from Minor Prophets”.
Another message we could take from the eclipse is that we will go quickly from darkness to light. I believe this is going to happen in the world.

~~~~~~Homeschool Corner~~~~~

I think it’s important to develop a family mission statement for your family. I gathered the kids together and we came up with a family mission statement several years ago. I did this after reading Seven habits of Highly Effective Families by Stephen Covey.
One thing that Stephen Covey said in his book that really encouraged me was that we should not expect perfection or get frustrated when we miss the mark. He said that setting these goals would at least give us something to shoot for. If we are aiming at nothing, that’s what we’ll get. But if we have a target, we are more likely to do better than we would if there was no target at all. There would be something that our family could rally around, a plan that would promote unity and define what kind of family we are and what we’re all about.
Here is our family mission statement:
1. To live out the kind of life that God wants Christian families to live.
2. To teach other families how to live together in love and kindness, with God as the center of all we do.
3. To glorify God in all that we say and do.
Let the Lord build your house. Ps. 127:1

To read more about this topic read this post on my blog.

Speaking of the book 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families, that’s the book we will be reading this month for our Christian Moms Book Club.

If you would like to join us in reading and discussing this inspiring book, click on this link and join our club for only $5/month. We have lots of fun at our book club. It’s a great time of fellowship and sharing, and we love to have new people join us.

Be encouraged today. In spite of the darkness that is being exposed, the light is breaking through.

Thank you for spending this time with me.

Have a wonderful April and enjoy the beautiful weather that is also coming!

Love,

Penney Douglas, B. S. in Elem. Ed.
Safe Haven Homeschooling

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Safe Haven News February 2024

❤️ Happy February, Safe Haven Family! ❤️

UPDATE: This book is no longer free, but it is still available on Amazon for 3.99! Get it here!

I have a special offer this month. Because I ❤️ love ❤️ all of you, from February 4-8, I’m giving a free copy of my e-book called “5 Steps to Becoming a Great Homeschool Parent” to all of you! Please do me a favor, and leave a review on Amazon after you read it. (5-star reviews are preferred 😄, but please give honest feedback.) And please share the link with others who would benefit from reading this book. https://amzn.to/424PZ9q

Please ask them to leave a review too. It would really help me out! Thank you!

❤️ Speaking of books, a really good book about relationships is “Keep Your Love On” by Danny Silk. For this Valentine’s Day, think about getting this book for yourself or your loved one. If you are married or in a serious relationship, you definitely need to read this. If you’re not married, you could still benefit from the solid teaching in this book about relationships. The author is an experienced social worker, group home staff member, program director, pastor, author, speaker, and foster parent. He has helped many people build, strengthen, and heal their relational connections. He teaches about connection, communication, and boundaries.

When I first read this book, I was in a bad place emotionally. I was not feeling very loving toward my husband or anyone else for that matter. But as I read Keep Your Love On, my focus switched from my own feelings to those of my loved ones. I learned that I should do everything out of love for the other person. That I should do whatever I can to preserve the connection. And that I had never really practiced unconditional love. I had always put conditions on my love and my feelings toward people. At first I didn’t agree with the extent that the author said we should go, but as I continued to read, I knew that he was right. There are only two goals in a relationship: connection or disconnection. He said that “I love you” messages drive down the anxiety and create safety. We have to commit to the goal of connection.

He talked about being a powerful person, and I must admit, his definition of it was the opposite of what I thought it would be.
This book changed me and helped me build much stronger relationships with the people in my life. I have given away copies of this book to others, because I believe so strongly in its message. And others have told me that it was powerful in their lives, too.
Our Christian Moms Book Club is reading it this month, so if you would like to discuss it with other moms and have some fun fellowship with likeminded women, please consider joining us Wed., Feb. 21 for our monthly meeting.

As far as current events go, of course we’re watching the border. It’s interesting to see a state asserting its rights and sovereignty in the face of orders from the Federal Government. And it’s interesting to see which states stand with Texas in defending their right to secure their border.

President Trump is winning the caucuses and primaries handily, of course. And all of the lawsuits in the world are not going to stop him from winning the election. If there is an election…

If you’re interested in the real truth behind the news and true history, you might want to check out the latest posts on my blog called 2023 Year in Review. They are chock full of informative posts from Telegram. Lots of important topics are covered like election fraud, covid vax exposure, human and child trafficking, Jan. 6, the power of frequency and music, the fall of the existing financial system and the birth of new financial systems.

I’m praying for our nation and the nations of the world to be set free from the rule of the evil cabal that has been ruling us all with an iron fist for years, even centuries. Join me in praying for the militaries of the world who are fighting for justice and who are rescuing the children who have been abused and trafficked. They have put their lives in great danger for the sake of all the rest of us and for the children.

Please join me in praying for the change to happen soon so that debts will be forgiven (because the banks did all kinds of illegal things), and programs will be put in place to bring emotional, physical, financial and housing relief to people all over the world. These plans are in the works. Let’s pray them into fruition.

Always remember that things are not as they appear. God is on the throne. He has a great plan to rescue us from the power of the enemy. The time has come for the Ancient of Days to stand and pronounce judgment in favor of the saints of the Most High and for us to possess the Kingdom. Daniel 7:21, 22.

Watch this video of Bobby Conner talking about a prophetic encounter in which God told him that this is the time that the saints will prevail and we will possess the Kingdom. But we have to get into the Word of God in order to fulfill this.

And if you want a fresh look at End Times theology check out Johnny Enlow’s most important message ever.

~~~~~ Homeschool Corner ~~~~~

10 Ways to Avoid Homeschool Burnout
  1. Lower expectations. Don’t try to do EVERYTHING perfectly. Housework can wait. It’s fine to have sandwiches for dinner. Make things easier for yourself. Use your crockpot more. Get your kids to do chores and be content with how they do things.
  2. Be flexible. If something isn’t working, be willing to try something different. When tensions rise, put the books aside and go outside or do something fun and change the atmosphere. Allow some space when conflicts arise. Remember why you’re homeschooling: You have the freedom to choose what, when, and where your children will learn.
  3. Change your teaching style. Don’t be too attached to a curriculum. Don’t make children do bookwork all day long. Don’t think that you have to do school as many hours as a traditional school day for public schools. If you’re feeling stressed, you’re doing too much. Ask yourself: Am I overdoing it? Are there other worthwhile things we could do now, and come back to this later?
  4. Limit scheduled activities. You might need to take a break from all outside activities for a while, like sports, scouts, or music. Limit the number of activities per child.
  5. Get support. Tell your husband what you need. Or your mom or dad or brother or sister. Find someone who can help you with the kids. Take the burden off of yourself, and don’t think that you have to do everything with your kids. Make sure that you can get some breaks from the total responsibility. If you’re married, ask your husband to help you make homeschool decisions and to teach the kids something that he is good at. Find a homeschool support group.
  6. Spend some time just playing with your kids. Join them in their games. Start a conversation with them about how they’re doing. Go out and throw a ball with them or shoot baskets. Ride bikes or take them to the park. 
  7. Have some down time. Call for a quiet time every afternoon. Let the kids play quietly in their rooms or nap, and you do something relaxing or take a nap, too.
  8. Begin your day with music. Use that to signal the beginning of your homeschool day.
  9. Don’t be too hard on yourself. Don’t dwell on your mistakes. Don’t compare yourself to other homeschool moms or your kids to other homeschool kids. Don’t spend too much time on social media. Pamper yourself. Remember your self-care tips! Spend time with your husband. Don’t neglect date nights!  Do family activities together – just for fun!
  10. Build your relationship with your children. Spend individual  time with each child, to the best of your ability. Find out what they’re thinking. Try to do something with them that they enjoy. As the relationships grow stronger, your attitude and theirs will be more positive, and school will go much better, too.
Bonus! Use a delight-directed learning approach. Let your kids be involved in the planning process and choosing curriculum and topics for study. Make learning enjoyable and purposeful. Let them learn life skills and count them as
school. Count the projects that they come up with themselves as just as worthy of school credit as any workbook or textbook assignment. The more fun and meaningful school is, the less chance of burnout for you and for your kids.
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Thanks for reading!

Enjoy your February. Make it a good one!

I just noticed we have 29 days this time. My friend, Tanya, will get to celebrate her birthday on her actual birthday this year. Happy Birthday, Tanya!

Oh, just a quick PSA: Our charitable giving doesn’t always have to go to an organization or a ministry. It is perfectly fine to give to a real person in your own life who has a need. I believe God considers it part of our tithes and offerings when we give to others – real people with real needs, not just organizations that are more impersonal.

We have been on the receiving end of this kind of giving many times. And we are so grateful for the ones who were obedient to the Lord and gave when we needed something. We have also been able to help others, and that is the best thing ever!

I learned about this many years ago when someone was considering helping us with a mortgage payment, but neither of us was sure if that was proper.

And then I came upon these verses:

“Everyone around was in awe—all those wonders and signs done through the apostles! And all the believers lived in a wonderful harmony, holding everything in common. They sold whatever they owned and pooled their resources so that each person’s need was met.” Acts 2:43-45

It changed my life when I realized that we could live this way. It was Biblical to help others and accept help from others. Pooling resources with brothers and sisters is the best way to live. There are so many verses about giving.

“Make sure you don’t take things for granted and go slack in working for the common good; share what you have with others. God takes particular pleasure in acts of worship—a different kind of “sacrifice”—that take place in kitchen and workplace and on the streets.” Heb.13:16

“Give, and you will receive. Your gift will return to you in full—pressed down, shaken together to make room for more, running over, and poured into your lap. The amount you give will determine the amount you get back.” Luke 6:38

“And I have been a constant example of how you can help those in need by working hard. You should remember the words of the Lord Jesus: ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive.” Acts 20:35
“We know what real love is because Jesus gave up his life for us. So we also ought to give up our lives for our brothers and sisters. If someone has enough money to live well and sees a brother or sister in need but shows no compassion—how can God’s love be in that person? Dear children, let’s not merely say that we love each other; let us show the truth by our actions.” I John 3:16-18
“But this I say: He who sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and he who sows bountifully will also reap bountifully. 7 So let each one give as he purposes in his heart, not grudgingly or of necessity; for God loves a cheerful giver. 8 And God is able to make all grace abound toward you, that you, always having all sufficiency in all things, may have an abundance for every good work. 9 As it is written:
“He has dispersed abroad,
He has given to the poor;
His righteousness endures forever.” 2 Cor. 9:6-9.

In these days when so many are experiencing financial hardship, don’t hesitate to help. Don’t question their money management practices or level of responsibility. Let God be the judge of that. You will be blessed by being a blessing.

That’s all for now!

Hit reply and share with me what you are learning and what God is doing in your life. Also share your prayer requests with me. I love to pray for you.

Penney Douglas, B. S. in Elem. Ed.
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